Friday, April 4, 2014

D is for Damsel

As in damsel in distress

I was not born to be a damsel in distress; however the Bible belt is a funny place and mostly ran by churches.  

The churches designate how and what women are to be in society. Being different is an area with a church on each corner can be a hard place. 

When I was young it was easier to believe what my care givers said to me or about me.  Whether the comment was negative or positive it became a part of who I was.

When you’re young it can be hard to determine what truth is and what is not.  There were not high standards for my life, no one was driving me to do anything more than get a menial job and work until, I retire. 

I wanted more; I wanted to be a trail blazer.  It’s funny how when you are following universe’s plan for your life, people try to keep in the station to which you were born. 

I was in distress, but I was no damsel. 

I was told I was stupid and would never amount to much from prominent people in my life.  Those comments impacted my self-worth, confidence and self efficacy.   It took me several years to realize and gain courage to go back to school, be the first person in my family to obtain a bachelors degree in human services as a counselor. I have plans to get my masters degree. 


  1. It takes something special to turn pain into something that will make the world a little better place.

  2. Good plans! I read a nice quote a few minutes ago: "The only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person you were yesterday." Sound alike you already have this figured out!

  3. Good plans! I think your past experiences will play a big part in your future work. :)

  4. I am glad you didn't let other people tell you who and what you were.
    Good post!
    Melanie Atherton Allen

  5. I'm so glad to hear you claimed your courage. What an inspiring post. None of us have to be damsels in distress. None of us...

    Julie Jordan Scott
    A to Z Challenge Participant/2011,12,13,14.....
    The Bold Writer from A to Z

  6. *whoa* --- holy moly! How far you've come is simply amazing! You don't come across as being much in distress anymore. I hope that's true. At the very least, take comfort in the knowledge that your distress is serving as inspiration to others. So much applause going on over here -- can you hear it???

    I'm participating in AtoZ, too.
    See you around!